Love letter to the Nice/Shy Guy

Another post from Doodadsii, and also the last one I'll put up here. Enjoy~!

I don't meant to be mean, but the nice guys are often the biggest of losers. No, no! Keep reading!
I was just thinking aloud. Every girl wants a nice guy and it's true - they do finish last, because we girls en up marrying them nice guys. Who wants to be stuck with a self-centered jerk anyways? However, the million dollar question remains. What is the difference between a nice guy and a total suck-up? Or, more likely, how to be a "Nice Guy"?

A nice guy is a gentleman that does not allow anyone to get the best of him. He is "nice", but he has a limit. Y'know?
The re are three types of people reading this...

❥ The loyal blog reader - thank you for choosing my blog to pass some time.

❥ The curious - I'm so glad you've found this post interesting enough to keep reading!

❥ And lastly, the lonely guy who's wondering why he is still single - sweetie, this is especially for you. (:

So you're wondering why you are still alone? Well, the answer is quite simple. In fact, there's a song about it.

"Live your life until love is found
Or love's gonna get you down"
~ Mika 

It couldn't be more true. You have to live your life and then find love, not search for love and resolve your life around it. 

I don't have many experiences of "love". Heck, I don't even know what it is anymore. However, I do have a few philosophies that you might (or might not) agree with.

The first is a comparison I find greatly appropriate. 

❥ Love is like keys. When you're looking for them, you won't find them, but when you don't, you do come across them.

I had three boyfriends so far and I noticed the other day how they each had something in common. They weren't popular, they were weird (out of the ordinary, in other words) and they were broken when I found them. The latter was the reason they started to irritate me.

If you take a dog (for example) with a broken leg and nurse it back to health, it will forever stay at your side. The problem is, to gain your attention, he goes and breaks his leg again. Do you see where I'm going with this?

Being emotionally dependent on another person is a very dangerous and a repulsive characteristic. Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
Why? Well, for the simple reason of growing up (maturing) and being your own person.
Individuality! That's what life is all about - expressing who you are and not giving that up for anyone.

So, my advice to you is...

❥ Gain some self-confidence - the courage to be yourself no matter what.
❥ Get a hobby and become somewhat ambitious about your goals in life.
❥ Stop trying to please others! Stop being a suck-up. 
❥ Lastly, but most important, fix yourself. It should be embarrassing to have someone do that for you.

However, don't do it for love. Do it for yourself. Love will find you if you are true to who you are and work hard on what you want to achieve in life.